7 Things You Need To Get Over or Lose Her
Yes folks it’s back! After a small hiatus, a site migration to new server and a total design make over, High Society Man proudly presents the long awaited return of Doc’s Phreakin Weekend Tips.
This weekend's edition of Doc's Phreaking Weekend Tips is dedicated to making your relationships stick. The saying goes “It’s cheaper to keep her” and with a few simple tips you might just be able to do so.
I’ve said it time and time again, too much machismo and stupid man pride is the fastest way to loose the special lady in your life. We men get betrayed, hoodwinked and led astray by our fellow man. We learn our lady processing skills from goofy places like television, movies, locker rooms, bars, job sites, naval ships and worst of all, our friends. Most of the well intended advice is however misguided and frankly absolutely wrong. What ensues is a myriad of long standing rusty anchors in our brains on matters of how we should deal with the women in our lives. For centuries we have been doing it wrong and now with the information age upon us there is no reason to keep doing it that way.
If you are going to make those fortunate moments when you find the right lady last, you are going to have to forget everything you think you know about dealing with women. Here are a few of the rules of engagement you are going to have to adjust in your brain.
Dealing With The EXs
Look, She will always have EXs deal with it. No really everybody has Exs and sometimes things come up where one will have to contact and Ex. This is all apart of life. Why do we get threatened by her Ex? Because your homies called you and said shit like “Dayum, I saw yo girl with the ole’boy... you gonna stand for that?” You answer should be “Yeah, I knew she was meeting him, It’s all good.” and let it go. If you don’t trust her she just ain’t the one. Never be jealous of or fear the Ex, it won’t end well.
Her “GUY” Friends
Dude really? Do I have to explain this one to you? Have you read the Wing Women Post? Not all of her guy friends want to have sex with her and nor does she want to have sex with them. The reason most guys feel bothered by a women’s guy compatriots is because many men have secret crushes on their so-called little sisters. That crush does not in any way mean you would be stupid enough to act upon you closet desires. Let it Go! She will always have GUY FRIENDS.
Her LBD Is Up To Her
You are not now and will never be Andy South. The same outfit you are trying to stop her from wearing when she goes galavanting on a GNO (Girls Night Out if you are lost) is same outfit that made to snap a sternocleidomastoid that moment you first laid eyes on her. Face it she’s hot and the most important thing a man can ever do for his lady is make sure she always feels that way. Most of what women wear is for other women not for us. Face it most of us would hump a girl wearing old grey gym sweats almost as fast as one in her best Michael Kors. You are not her STYLIST so stop trying to tell her what to wear. Let the fire burn my boy.
When She Has A Hissey Fit
Remember, it’s better to win the war. We are systemically wired different from women. No matter how much equality they ask for and we rightfully concede they will always perceive many thing different from us. Great this fact of life can save you a lot of useless headaches if you just let her have the mundane and trivial arguments. Best advice I ever learned from my Father, Let her win the little ARGUMENTS! That way when you really need a win you can remind her you are never combative with her and you always have her back but you really feel strongly about this one and she will most likely let it go with little or no fight.
Don’t Be A Backseat Driver
I’m not going to lie here, this one i still struggle with. Again something to do with the wiring or just a dumb stereotype that they keep living up to. Females for the most part drive a motor vehicle in a way we will never understand. Don’t even try to fix it, it is a waste of time a normally a hot point of contention in every relationship. Just face it, She will never DRIVE the way you like. Let it Go!
Dare to Compare
Always remember to completely clean the slate between relationships. she is not the same psycho who overreacted to everything you did or said, she is not the one who browbeat into submission, she is not the one who ask to see your phone to see a picture and then goes all Indiana Jones Explorer through your phone records. Don’t treat her like she is the same as the battle ax you just got away from. Give her a fair chance with the baggage from your past. Remember, She is NOT your EX girlfriend. The New New may do thing totally different from the last one. If you find that her behavior is too much like your Ex... guess what it’s not her it’s you. You are attaching yourself to a prototype and you’ll need to address that issue yourself or get some professional help. NEVER compare her to your EX. Not even by accident. You have been warned.
Pay Attention to the Details
Yes, it’s worth repeating. Men and Women are wired differently. What may seem to you like a trivial thing may not be... nay... is not trivial to her. If your lady tells you something you do or say upsets her, no matter how small or trivial you think it is, listen to her. Let it Go! We may never understand exactly what women want, they don’t necessarily know what they want. If she seems as if she does, remember women often change their minds. Get used to it. No matter what just know this... If She tells you something upsets her more than TWICE, It’s not a SMALL THING.
These tidbits are the tip of a Titanic sized iceberg but are enough to keep you out of trouble for a while. If you don not listen to us please note High Society Man is not responsible for your early demise. #Stay Classy