First Date: Doc’s Phreakin’ Weekend Tips V5
This weekend’sedition of the now famous Doc’s Phreakin’ Weekend Tip is about how to handle the pressure of a first date.
First dates are so full or tension and pressure and they make both parties fell a bit uncomfortable just thinking of it. Well, you job is to make her feel comfortable and relaxed about going out with you. So this is how that is done.
Where to go on a First Date
Number one rule of business “Location, Location, Location” this stands for first dates too. The key here is to keep things simple, light and casual. Some of the best choices are a coffee dates at a nice quite cafe. Look dudes do your homework and pick some place unique and quaint. Show her you are thoughtful and creative. Coffee dates do not mean Starbucks, too easy, noisy and you’ll bump into your ex or 1NS’s for sure.
You can also do a nice simple light lunch or brunch. Nothing too heavy as you don’t want to risk internal combustion if you two decide to progress the date along further and stay out longer. Bonus points if you can cook and make lunch yourself and take her to the park. This way you can pack multiple first date options into one date because a nice long slow stroll in the park or historical part of town is a great date. It allows for smooth easy conversation and you two will learn stuff together. This will make her feel engaged and smarter just for being around you.
be Amazing but be yourself
You plan the First Date
First dates are difficult enough without you asking her where she wants to go and you two doing a “French Open Semi-finals” with “I dunno, you pick” or “I don’t care up to you” worse yet “Whatever” as it is never whatever. If you said ok let’s go hame and bum uglies what do you think would happen. Remember last week DRPWT… Confidence is king. Be confident, show some take charge and initiative and you Sir plan everything. Call ahead make reservations, ask for the quiet table, have non rose flowers handy, no the directions to where you going and most of all have plans for if she wants to stay with you longer. (also have plans for if you need to GTFO in a hurry). Go Boy Scout, be prepared.
Keep the conversation light
OK this one is a whole post in and of itself so I’ll barley scratch the surface but just know this keep the conversation light and comfortable. Yeah I know this is gonna be difficult, if she baits you with sex topics to see if you are a horn dog, sliver out of the topic quickly… It’s a trap. They read Cosmo. No talk of Religion, Sex, Politics and abso-fuckin-lutely no talking of the ex’s. This is a practiced art so yeah come back and see more detailed post on the subject.
If you are unsure keep it short
If you are having a hard time getting a read on her or fell the good fun slipping away, know when to get out. Apologizes for not being able to spend more time with the psycho, i mean lady, and wrap it up. Actually to totally contradict what I said up previously, even when she wants to stay longer with you, opt for keeping it short. Leave her wanting more, mystery is sexy. Use this as an opportunity to request a second date and leave her imagining an even more awesome time.
Be Amazing, Be Humble & Be Yourself
The options are limitless if you use a little imagination. Be creative, uniqueness is an awesome partner trait. Use this time to shine. Let her do the majority of the talking by asking good thoughtful questions. When you learn to listen, she will tell you the keys to her heart and secret passages every time. Ears, use them. First Dates are hard, especially since both parties are normally bullshitting. Don’t fall into that trap or you may set a standard you can never keep up with. That’s why you hear shit like “He never take me anywhere anymore” or “He used to love to do fun things.”
Those seemingly whiney messages come from us acting Tah-ta-dah superhero in the first date.
I hope this give you some ideas on what to do on a first date. Go forth, experiment and explore brothers and report back to HSM. We love to hear your feedback, questions and comments.
Have a nice Weekend