Rejection: Deal with it!
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The name of the game is really manners, style and grace. When you finally crank up the confidence to ask a lady to have a drink with you or to do the “Dougie,” you may learn that, nine times out of ten, the answer is no. Boom! REJECTED!
Rejection: Deal With It
The absolute best way to handle being shot down is to do exactly what I recommend. Exactly. No deviations, no add- ons, no extra cool points… Just follow my instructions to the letter.
- Apologize. Say you're sorry to have taken up her time. (In fact, you might open with that even before you ask to buy her a drink or for a dance.
- Smile. Always smile. Never stop smiling. It eases the pain a bit, and may still win her over. You can also say something like "Yeah, you're probably better off. I wouldn’t want to dance with a no- rhythm guy like me, either." Laugh, and then, finally
- Walk Away. Yeah, that is, just get to stepping. But wait! Here's a little caveat that you can add from time to time. Remember, though, like turbo boost, use it sparingly. Say something to the effect of, “I'm not much of a quitter, so I may go away to duct tape my wounded ego (or pick up the pieces of my destroyed self confidence), and come back to try again later.” Drop another winning smile, and get out of Dodge.
A real Gentleman knows how to take Rejection! The lamest thing ever is a guy who, after getting shot down, then resorts to calling the lady "stuck up," or "a bitch." Face it, dude, she's just not that into you. Move on!Turn Rejection into a learning experience
Now you've passed the first rejection test. Dust yourself off and try again. It’s a game of averages. Sooner or later you’ll get a yes. The key is not to look like Albert “La Machine” Pujols trying to hit every pitch out of the park. If you're having a bad night or streak, back off. Just dish out a few genuine smiles, greetings and heartfelt compliments, and you might get hit on! Have a good weekend, and go get ’em, Tiger!